The Danish Girl

everything about this annoys me.
i did not find one performance to be remarkable, the cinematpgraphy is serviceable but nothing sticks out.

the most atrocious part of this film is obviously in the treatment of the so called "main character"
this story is not about her as a person or her journey into becoming a woman but rather the cis people around her and yes this film is set in another time period but thats not an excuse.
especially in the world we live in, we do not need this movie. it prioritizes the feelings of cis people and idk if this has happened to anyone else but it feels like cis people think trans people owe them something after coming out, to take it slow or to consider they're feelings but the fact is cis people don't get to choose what is and what is not a woman.
cis people should not create a criteria of things that trans people should have experienced in order to qualify being trans.
i've had that experience this week, my mother asked me "i've never seen you play with dolls, you never wanted to wear dress as a child"
and just the overall whiny-ness of not keeping they're(my mothers and sisters) feelings in check when i wore a dress in front of them.
i told them i do not feel comfortable in my body and how i am, what does make me comfortable is wearing a dress and being called a girl.
i litteraly cried during my screening of the phoenician scheme when mia threapelton came on screen simply because not only is it gonna take a long time before people are not actually gonna call me by my deadname but also the process ingeneral.
but then she proceeds to say "not in every culture is a dress specifically for woman" and like, thats such bullshit statement, its true but what does that have to do with anything? the reason why saying all this is because there seems to be a rather weird complex with many cis people, they need to know what, how and why. you need to have played with dolls which my mother only said simply because a trans woman she knows did which is another problem and thats the notion that trans woman or men are somehow linked with their experience, allot of them do but we aren't all the same and allot of us have different experiences. it becomes a problem when you compare experiences.
this film only supports that which is absolute fucking bullshit.